The VDAY proposal…or not?

With Valentine’s Day just around the corner and the Groom Show looming just beyond that, I have been having a flurry of calls from guys wondering if it’s too cliché to propose on VDAY or if it is expected and they should just bow to tradition.

Hard question to tackle as I think a proposal should reflect the Groom’s personality and he should stage a proposal that injects aspects of himself as well as things that are meaningful to them as a couple so it’s something she remembers for a lifetime.

On the other hand, some women spend most of their relationship waiting for that traditional proposal on Valentine’s Day or Christmas or the anniversary of the day you met….and there can be grave disappointment when it doesn’t happen the way.

Here are some suggestions from my notebook:

Getaway – stage it someplace new that you have both never been before.  Create a new “our spot” with you proposal and the good thing about this is it can become the anniversary spot or the getaway that you share exciting news and moments in the future.

Runaway – do it on a well earned vacation.  Go somewhere fantastic ( I am thinking tropical and more specifically on the cliffs of Negril Jamaica at sunset J!).  You will both be supremely relaxed and you can make arrangements before the trip to have the proposal set up exactly the way you want it.

Plot & plan with a proposal planner – yes folks there are those of us wedding planners who also help to create magical proposals.  These can be staged and can be as sweet and simple or grand and over the top as you want it to be.  Go in for a consult and see what you come up with.  Most consults are no charge (this is my no charge tip of the day!).

Personal and totally you – create something at home that will wow her and incorporate elements that are important to her…favorite foods (yes, even if it’s fries from Wendy’s!), wine, movie or games / trivia and incorporate them into a proposal that she will never forget .

Happy Proposing!